Monday, February 15, 2010

The Little Princess

Our beautiful Grace got to participate in a Princess Dance at our church on Valentines Day. She definitely knows she is a princess! She and I have started doing a girls devotion together when I put her to bed (no boys allowed) and she really loves our girl time. She is such a gift!
I also wanted to let you all know that our babysitter and beautiful friend Amanda has started a blog and it is really good! Check it out at

Thursday, February 11, 2010

More on Child Training...

I believe delighting in your kids is the key to your kids giving you their heart
As I said earlier, it takes time to get to really know each child, their passions, interests, stumbling blocks, what makes them tick, what discourages them, what motivates them.
Our kids have to know that we are dedicated to their success above our own goals, reputation, our own time, schedule, etc.

It takes giving consideration to their input with respect as if they were another adult, listening to their stories, dreams (OHH this can be trying!!), explanations. Some kids take longer to communicate and it takes time and patience to really listen!!
Psalm 40:8- “I delight to do Thy will"
when we delight in our children, they respond in delighting to please us.
Our son, Rick, said it often kept him from doing wrong, knowing that doing a certain thing would displease his parents.

Delight is a matter of the heart. It comes from deep within. Our children belong to the LORD, not us. He entrusts them to us. Col. 3:17 -do everything you do for the Lord
“Whatsoever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks thru Him to God the Father.”
We need to realize that our attitude as parents needs to grow to be a selfless one. We are called to do what we do for the Lord Jesus, even on the really tough days- not for wealth or fame or recognition or even thanks. Kids don’t appreciate what you’ve done for them when they are little. They will when grown and have kids of their own.

The Lord sees and knows all. As we learn to seek the Lord in our child rearing-for all the details- we begin to internalize that He does care and is waiting to pour out His wisdom to us in precise detail.

Duty is ours, the result is the Lord’s.
In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths.
Our kids are created in God’s image. Our job is to point them to their Savior- that is foremost in our job description, not teaching math, geography, or biology, but rather in building servant’s heart for Jesus. ~ Marilyn Boyer

" Lord give me the dicipline, patience and perseverance I need to delight in my children even when I don't feel like it! " ~ Lindsay

Thursday, February 04, 2010

Boy did I need to be reminded of this!!

Homeschooling is all about relationships. It’s about math and reading and sentence diagramming and geography and all those things too, but all these things amount to nothing in God’s eyes if we don’t raise children of character ready to tackle big enterprises for the Lord. If you sometimes feel like homeschooling or parenting is drudgery, you can bet your kids feel the same way. It’s such a temptation to stress out over things like teaching predicate nominatives or the steps of division that we forget to delight in our children and make time to enjoy being with them. We have found through our now 35 years of parenting and 30 years of home schooling that this is actually the key to instilling values that stick and building in your kids a heart for things of the Lord. Foundational to preparing your child to do great things you need to focus on your relationship with each child individually. When your relationship with your kids is right, they will respond to your attempts to make learning fun.

~ Marilyn Boyer