1. Can I live in another state for the rest of my life? Can I accept the fact that my immediate family will not be a big part of my life because of this? That I won't have them around to help me when I start a family?
2. Do I believe that Daniel is the one God chose for me to marry before my life even began?
3. Can I follow him and the decisions he will make for me and our children?
4. Can I make the best of a relationship with his parents that isn't starting out the way I wanted?
5. Does he have a selfish view of children? Is he going to make a great father? Does he want to father lots of children?
6. Will he love me as Christ loved the church?
7. Is he willing to be the sole provider for our family so I can be a stay at home wife and mom?
8. Can I work on becoming and perfecting the woman that HE needs as a wife?
9. What are ALL of his dreams and goals and how will those work with my dreams and goals?
10. Does he love the Lord with all his heart, soul, mind and strength? Is he trying to better himself in all of his weaknesses?
The more I prayed and the more I opened up and discussed these issue's with Daniel, I knew the answers to all of these questions and I knew without a shadow of doubt that he WAS the man God had chosen for me! So that is my advice, Pray hard and discuss your concerns with your future mate. Have grace for his weaknesses (he will also need grace for yours) and work on perfecting your own weaknesses to become the best wife you can be! This takes a lot of time and effort but is so worth it! Funny thing is, now that we are married, we still don't think in the almost 9 years of our marriage that we have argued as much as we did during our engagement! I will say that I wish we had talked more openly about finances and taken an FPU course before getting married, that is about the only thing in our marriage that we have found to argue about! I can totally see now what God was doing in bringing my husband into my life so young. I tend to overanalyze every possible situation and scenario to avoid making a mistake to the point of being overskeptical. God blessed me with a very decisive man who knows how to lead and gave me a long time to get to know him and build trust in him. I probably would have gotten more picky the older I got in choosing a mate! I think it's important that every girl or single lady remember that falling in love is not a fairy tale. Relationships = Work. I will say that for me, being married has been much easier than being engaged. I am the type of person who likes clearly defined goals and instructions. The bible doesn't really give us instructions about how an engagement should look but it has plenty to say about being a wife! It is well worth the extra effort to marry Mr. Right, as in... right for you!
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