Monday, November 03, 2014

Pondering 2 Chronicles 10 and Child-Rearing

   I was reading The Word in 2 Chronicles chapter 10 to the kids in school this morning about when Jeroboam and the children of Israel summoned the newly kinged Rehoboam following Solomon's death and it compelled me to ponder how this story could relate to training our own children. You can read it here...

“Your father made our yoke hard; now therefore lighten the hard service of your father and his heavy yoke which he put on us, and we will serve you.” He said to them, “Return to me again in three days.” So the people departed.
Then King Rehoboam consulted with the elders who had [a]served his father Solomon while he was still alive, saying, “How do you counsel me to answer this people?” They spoke to him, saying, “If you will be kind to this people and please them and speak good words to them, then they will be your servants forever.” But he forsook the counsel of the elders which they had given him, and consulted with the young men who grew up with him [b]and served him. So he said to them, “What counsel do you give that we may answer this people, who have spoken to me, saying, ‘Lighten the yoke which your father put on us’?” 10 The young men who grew up with him spoke to him, saying, “Thus you shall say to the people who spoke to you, saying, ‘Your father made our yoke heavy, but you make it lighter for us.’ Thus you shall say to them, ‘My little finger is thicker than my father’s loins! 11 Whereas my father loaded you with a heavy yoke, I will add to your yoke; my father disciplined you with whips, but I will discipline you with scorpions.’”
12 So Jeroboam and all the people came to Rehoboam on the third day as the king had [c]directed, saying, “Return to me on the third day.” 13 The king answered them harshly, and King Rehoboam forsook the counsel of the elders. 14 He spoke to them according to the advice of the young men, saying, “[d]My father made your yoke heavy, but I will add to it; my father disciplined you with whips, but I will discipline youwith scorpions.” 15 So the king did not listen to the people, for it was a turn of events from God that theLord might establish His word, which He spoke through Ahijah the Shilonite to Jeroboam the son of Nebat.
16 When all Israel saw that the king did not listen to them the people answered the king, saying,
What portion do we have in David?
We have no inheritance in the son of Jesse.
Every man to your tents, O Israel;
Now look after your own house, David.”
So all Israel departed to their tents. 17 But as for the sons of Israel who lived in the cities of Judah, Rehoboam reigned over them. 18 Then King Rehoboam sent Hadoram, who was over the forced labor, and the sons of Israel stoned him [e]to death. And King Rehoboam made haste to mount his chariot to flee to Jerusalem. 19 So Israel has been in rebellion against the house of David to this day.
         
        How often do we succumb to the advice of Rehoboam's inexperienced advisors and deal too harshly with our own kids? What if we heeded the advice of Solomon's elder advisors? 
 “If you will be kind to this people and please them and speak good words to them, then they will be your servants forever.” 
Would it help bring about the desired outcome for our own kids? We are not training them up to be our servants but we certainly don't want them in rebellion against our house and the things we stand for, especially God's word. We desire their relationships with us to point them to their true Father.  Isn't it amazing how many stories from the the word we can relate to child rearing?!